How do you NOT take it personally?

So, there you are…you are playing a dps class, or tank, or healer – whatever. You are knowledgeable about your class. You have the right BiS items, enchants, gems, etc. You are specced appropriately for your particular style/brand (i.e. you play Marksman and are specced correctly as a marksman – like you don’t have points in pathfinding or some stupid asinine move like that). You do alright dps, maybe its not the greatest the world has ever seen, but its comparable to others who are similarly specced/geared. You heal perfectly well. No one thinks you are a bad tank. You get compliments that you are good, that you don’t screw up, that you are fun to play alongside.

So, you put your app into <We are the greatest ever guild> and you wait. You get contacted. You set up some time to talk. Everything seems ok, all the right things are said, check marks in the right spots. Then you hear it…

“Yeah, I don’t know if this will work out.” – Then the app is declined.

Now, you are thinking, “Ok, its alright. They found someone better. They filled the spot. No big deal. Other opportunities will come, I’m not the greatest ever anyway, so if they got someone better, then awesome for them.”

LFDps for raid group. App to <We are the greatest ever guild>

Wait…WHAT?!? So you now have to read something into this…and really there is only one thing to read into it…NO DPS is better than MY DPS.

Let’s face it, we have all had this type of scenario happen in the Real World. We apply for a job/role and get one of the following: No response, We are pursuing other candidates at this time, the position is filled, or if you are fortunate an interview of some kind and THEN the “this position has been filled.”

But that’s RL, not a game. RL has to be far pickier, far more choosey in who they bring in, after all real money is involved. And once someone is in the door, its sometimes very difficult to remove them, HR nightmare anyone?

But in the game…well, its easy. /GKICK! And you can tell rather quickly when someone gels with your raid group or not. Was the log dps a little low, perhaps. Bring them in and see what they do real time. Maybe everyone around them is that bad, maybe there was RNG effecting the data, maybe they just had an off night. Perhaps everything else they do is a boon to the guild as a whole? You really don’t know until you give them a shot.

The point is, its not difficult to give someone a shot inside the digital world, yet we are more particular and demanding, scrutinizing in far more detail our fellow players than a prospective employer does in the real world?! If a player joins your guild, and he causes the break up of your guild…I am willing to bet there were other issues than said player. If you bring a new associate into your company and they bring an assault rifle to work the first day…well, kind of a bigger problem to face. Why are we all so judgmental and finicky about a VIDEO GAME?!? Its meant to be fun, leisure, entertainment? And yet we treat it as if real life hangs in the balance.

Regardless…there it is…you are rejected. Judged on your dps, tank, healing skills without ever actually showing what you can do; and the worst part is, they are still looking. They have told you flat out, “We would rather raid with 9/24, than take you along.”

How else do you take that? How is that NOT personal?


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